The struggle between clients who do not want to give basic information, or get references, and providers who require some screening or other vetting is REAL. This conflict comes because client and escort are simultaneously prioritizing their own safety and privacy first, as we all should. But if you are looking to court an escort into meeting, you will need to have some compassion for the provider and their safety needs or risk not seeing them at all. This FAQ will help you understand escort vetting, and particularly how I do it. Serious-minded gentleman need only to follow your heart because you already know. The mystery and uniqueness of discovering new and interesting people keeps this hobby from getting dull. Meeting someone for the first time is exciting, and partially because it involves some chance and risk.
Why do some providers ask for info/references and others do not?
The details of their reasoning on how to vet clients is unique to each provider and based on experience. It might seem like some have more relaxed vetting because they do not ask for much, or more traditional information. Not true.
Providers with alternative vetting have fine-tuned their SHIT-DETECTORS. They are gathering information on you in one way or another. Your ability to answer questions promptly and follow instructions is also a part of the vetting process.
Providers who take phone calls do so for similar reasons; their intuition works better when they can hear someone's voice. On the other hand, I do not take phone calls for people whom I have never met. My contact preference for text and email is clearly listed on my ads and website. Yet and still, my phone rings with clients calling day-and-night. I might not totally block someone for this vetting infraction, but I will be watching for what's next and it will be easy to dump them if they continue to violate boundaries.
What's happening when a provider asks for my basic information or references?
It's not about you. Good providers will have strong boundaries because those processes work to keep them safe. Vetting processes are different for every provider. Find out as much as you can online what the provider needs to feel good about you before contacting. Then ask yourself first before answering honestly, "Can I meet the provider's request for basic info?" If the answer is no, then don't contact them at all. If you need to contact them to find out what they need from you before proceeding then do it respectfully without being explicit or vulgar. Remember, each provider has unique ways that work for them. Trust the process. There will always be a risk involved in providing your information. It is a risk you will need to take if you want the prize. Just do it.
What if you really want her, but don't want to give any info?
You know the answer to this already.... find another escort who does not require personal information or references. The willingness to complete whatever a provider needs to be comfy IS THE VETTING PROCESS. Do not continue to pester and insist on crossing a provider's personal boundaries. It makes you look bad, is bad for your karma, and you will most likely be blocked. Evasiveness, resistance, or any kind of hesitation on a client's part is a warning to genuine escorts to stay away because they realize these people usually waste their time. Providers save memories of people who waste or try to steal their time. They share those memories online, directly amongst friends, or in a larger support group. It is quickly getting harder for people with bad intentions.
What can I do if I am AFRAID of vetting because of "X" (enter your excuse here)
Ask yourself, "What am I afraid of?" The three most common responses are: police interaction, blackmail, or rejection.
First, there is nothing wrong with rejection so there is no reason to be afraid of it. Providers are not a public service and will reject lots of potential and current clients for various reasons. They are highly private and unique individuals with specific tastes and dislikes which are finely tuned. Don't let a little rejection stop you from finding one that's right for you. It's easier than you think.
Click on this link If you would like to know more about how to "Avoid Arrest while getting satisfied by an escort". As for blackmail, my only suggestion would be to stick with the high-end escorts because they have just as much, or more, to lose than you do. If any part of this process is causing angst then you should wait for time when you feel better about it. If that time never comes then don't do it. Being in conflict with yourself is one of the worst places to be and the enjoyment in your session will be diminished as a result.
What is Susanna's vetting process?
I rely on clues you give me from the moment you contact me and every interaction thereafter as part of my vetting process. I can't tell you all what I am looking for or it will spoil the fun ;-)) But mostly I am looking for a gentleman who cares. A gentleman looks like someone who is gentle. He listens deeply with intent to understand others and has enough self-discipline to respect others emotional and physical boundaries consistently and with integrity. Any man who does not approach people as a gentleman exposes a RED FLAG.
I would not want anyone as a client who, if they had my personal information, would use that info to harm me. My practice is to have the empathy to put myself in my clients shoes when it comes to privacy of information. My vetting process also includes looking for clues that you are a good person overall.
Does Susanna give referrals?
I gladly give referrals without details. You are either good or not. You will know which you are. Client's must email, or text, the provider's information to me: name, email, and phone number when they ask for a referral. No referral will be given if I do not hear from the client FIRST. This is for your privacy and security. What if the person contacting me to see if you were a good client is not actually a provider but a private investigator hired by your wife, or jealous co-worker? It is not my responsibility to know which escorts are in fact genuine. Escorts are highly independant by nature and do not work together in a union, or follow a handbook of rules.
Do you have any more questions about giving personal information or references to providers? I'd like to hear them in in comments section below.